Connection. The drive to share experiences with those dear to you. To be appreciated by them, and protect them.
How much does it drive you?
Knowing how much it motivates you, will make you achieve more, while at the same time preventing burnout.
If it’s one of your primary drivers, your deeper understanding of Connection will begin steering you towards work that you’ll Naturally succeed at. Where you won’t need to use willpower and discipline to outperform others.
It'll also reveal places at your current job, that can use your desire for Significance to fuel you, right now.
Even if find you’re not driven by Connection, confirming that will let you skip years of grinding on work that would be twice as hard for you, and even once you reached the top would just leave you feeling empty.
To discover much you are driven by Connection, let’s sit with what that desire feels like. Your values are on an emotional level. So we’ll spend a few minutes with that feeling, by looking at two movie hero’s that lived a path driven by connection, and followed it to victory.
DOMINIC TORETTO - Fast & Furious
Dominic Toretto In Fast & the Furious was fiercely driven by Connection.
- Being driven is a something this man knows a thing or two about. But the one thing he loved more than cars was his family
- Everything he did was motivated by his love of family and friends.
- He always protected them, and brought them together.
- FF6 - When Letty was found to be still alive and stuck in a life of crime, Dom gave up life his paradise retirement to fight to help her and reunite with her
- FF8 - Another time When Elena and his son were threatened, He agreed to return to crime and work from an enemy he hated in exchange for their safety.
- Hell he turned half the people trying to kill him into family too. Ya know, connection is only a medium value for me, but talking about Mr. Toretto even I get all pumped about it.
In movies, the most dramatic form of connection is usually fighting, to protect family
But There’s a lot of different types of connection
- Being loved
- Knowing them deeply
- Protecting them in day to day ways
- Simply being together
Connection doesn’t have to be with people ether
On to to the next example:
Peter Quill - Guardians of the Galaxy
Peter Quill in Guardians of the Galaxy Also lived his life dedicated to connection, becoming his greatest strength.
- Love of Walkman was his love of connection to his mother
- Risks life for it after escaping
- He Risks his life and gives himself up to capture by to save Gamorra
- His irresistible passion for connection drew everyone around him closer, eventually forming a crew, and a family from the people who started as his enemies.
- In the end, it was them uniting together that allowed them to hold the infinity stone and defeat the near godlike Ronan
- How were these regular schmoes in a super hero movie in marvel with people like Thor & Thanos? It was their exceptional connection
Remembering those stories, how did you feel?
How much do you feel the draw to connect with those around you. To be loved, share things with them, know them, and protect them?
Hollywood gives us extreme examples, but there are opportunities in many Careers to be fueled by Connection. Let’s look at some examples and you will start noticing opportunities you’ve overlooked at your current work, that can tap into your need for connection. Using your gift to be a competitive strength.
Do you have any regular customers or clients at your job?
- Retail, Bars / hospitality, higher end sales this is common
- Take the extra step to know them, treat them as a friend, like Quill would, more than a customer.
- Tapping into your connection motivation will give you more energy at work. And could network into opportunities in the future you cant imagine now.
Are there any places at your current job where you could teach or mentor others?
- Teacher student connection is a strong bond
- Get a lot of satisfaction as you see them succeed
- Its highly valued by your company when you do
Does your company need someone to plan company social events?
- This can be the thing that sets you apart as the team member more essential than the others, while fueling you
- Edge that company wants you more than the rest
Connection is massive business skill.
Networking, getting clients, hiring, connection is part of every vital thing you need.
- Its more than just being good idea on paper. Big business deals are relationships. Forged over time
- The company I work at we have a sales team and they spend months
Now after your deep dive with Connection, how much do you feel it drives you?
Do you see any places at your current work that give you Connection?
Thinking about it now, do they motivate
you more?
If you are driven by Connection, the more you pay attention to this, the stronger this feeling will increase that edge that it gives you. You can also gain more of this edge from any other of 6 needs that you resonate with. Find out how strongly you feel about the rest of them. Personally I connect strongly with 3.
Or If you’ve realized you don’t care about Connection, that is power too. You now can recognize jobs pushing connection as a benefit, and know that for you, it wouldn’t have value, and would just be a trap. You can avoid it and
find work that takes advantage of the needs that do motivate you.
So find out how much you connect with the rest of the 6 Fundamental needs, and use all of your strengths unique to you. Pick the next value.
Or jump straight to Contribution, It’s the rarest of the 6 values, but people with a strong drive for Connection are the most likely to have it. That may be you.
